THE POWER OF NO.
I say we are beings who have amazing, unrealised power and strength. This is absolute truth but none of your power and strength can be realised without belief, without mind-set.
We always have the power to say No! To walk away (unless we’re physically tied up and that is seldom the case). We just have to believe it. What is it that stops you saying ‘No!’ to anything, anybody you don’t agree with? Fear (the old arch-enemy). You are frightened about looking foolish, being different, feeling or being rejected, or you may be frightened by the other person or systems bullying abusiveness.
All these fears, on the surface, look perfectly reasonable but allow me to make a few suggestions of my own. Let’s look at these all again, one at a time.
The fear of looking foolish.
This always goes back to caring about what people think too much. If you care about what people think too much you cannot be yourself. If you cannot be yourself you become unsettled, unhappy, fearful. It is a vicious circle. When you are being yourself and doing the things you believe in you respect yourself, feel good about yourself. These feelings always outweigh the initial feeling of foolishness or embarrassment of doing things differently. Supposing you do something truly foolish (in your eyes) e.g. fall over or trip, not get the joke, not know the answer, not able to work out the answer (often for feeling too self-conscious), not able to do something well (some action or sport) that others appear to find so easy etc, etc. What really do you imagine people think of you? Some of the lesser ones might poke fun, try to embarrass you further or self-promote but most will accept who you are, will not think less of you as they all know they too have many strengths and weaknesses and more than you think will want to help. They won’t love you less for your shortcomings, more likely they will love you more because your shortcomings help them to feel good about themselves because they can do it.
Everything to be done well needs constant practise. If you want to become non-caring which is not the same as uncaring, the two are very different animals and I strongly recommend the path of being non-caring because it is the only path that leads to true freedom and allows you to be the truly amazing soul you are, you have to make a start with the little things and then build up.
If you make a real effort to be more honest with your words this will also aid this journey. Words and actions are, after all, the same thing in different forms.
You might be slightly confused at this point about non-caring and uncaring and correct knowledge of these two areas (issues) is so important I will give specific definitions now.
Non-caring. Non-caring is when you do not allow the energy of others to deflect you from doing or saying the things you believe in or believe to be true. In other words, you follow your own beliefs and intuitions regardless of where everybody else is or is going. This by the way is true strength.
Uncaring. This is the opposite of being caring and since I have spent this entire web-site time encouraging you to care more I think you can say I am totally opposed to anyone who is uncaring, i.e. Who doesn’t care (love) his fellow man, animal or plant?
The way forward for us all is to be very caring and yet very non-caring. That way we can always go in the right direction with strength, confidence and energy (be ourselves more). If you are caring you will know the right way to behave and if you are non-caring you will have the strength to follow through with that behaviour.
Going back to looking foolish and embarrassing yourself, this is, after all, only a short-lived, uncomfortable feeling which you soon get over (we’ve all been there many times) and then get back to normal. If you worry about looking foolish and embarrassing yourself too much it is going to affect your normal behaviour, make you worry, use up some of your such valuable energy (we only get so much), make you over cautious, nervous, so my advice to you is try not to think about it, deal with it when it happens. It is after all not a common experience.
There is another danger about worrying (thinking about things too much before they’ve happened). You tend to draw the things you are thinking, worrying about, to you. It is the power of mind-set. Remember I say we create our own realities. So, in a sense if you expect to be embarrassed or look foolish, you will be. Your mind draws it, pulls it to you. So, my advice is don’t worry about looking foolish, don’t think about it at all (don’t draw it to yourself). Deal with it when it happens and have a laugh about it – see the humour.
Laughter is, after all, the best medicine. What a dull world we would have if there was no foolishness in it.
The Fear of being Different.
We know the animal kingdom is amazing, beautiful, incredibly strong and very psychic. We also know there are some limitations that most of the non-human animals have, that we as humans, should try to rise above. One of these is the use of force to sustain will. I’m bigger so you’ll do it this way or I’ll thump you. Another is rising above the fear of being different. We all know the white crow will not be accepted in the wild. It is too different. It will be pecked to death or rejected and thereby become isolated, vulnerable and helpless and will not survive.
In a decent society we are allowed to be ourselves providing we don’t go about hurting others. This is as it should be. We are allowed, by law, to be different.
The beauty of anything is differentness, sameness becomes boring. Variety is the spice of life. Therefore, we should never be frightened of being different and going our own way. That is, after all, who we are (our intrinsic beauty). Many colours make the rainbow.
There is another factor here that is so important. If you let the crowd define who you are you always be going the wrong way. At the moment, in society as it is influenced and controlled, the masses are moving in the wrong direction, thinking wrong thoughts. I have been dealing with these issues from the start so if you join them you only give further energy to the wrongness. Only by being your true self can you find happiness and peace ultimately. Your true self is loving and beautiful. Are the masses like that? No. (They could be, they need to be, they will be [eventually]). So, you need to be different, to be going in the right direction now.
If you have the strength to do this, others will join you and gradually it becomes easier and we change a world. You do have the strength to do this. We all do. It is just an effort of will. If you have the desire, you will have the strength – that is just the way it is. So, you must have the desire. I cannot give you desire I can only advise. I have tried to give you desire by explaining things as I perceive them to be. My perceptions, through life, have seldom let me down. I am very intuitive. Most things I expect to happen, do happen. It is just the way my life has been. This is why I feel qualified to advise you now (and by the way I am going beyond creating my own reality, I am also talking about perceptions of the bigger picture, the world reality).
In short, I am different (I think most of you might have worked that out already). But I am you and you are me (there is no real difference).
I was born perhaps a little stronger than some but much of my strength has been self-taught, self-created. I did not respect my own weakness. In other words when I said wrong words or did wrong deeds to impress others, be accepted, liked, it made me feel bad (uncomfortable) about myself. It made me feel weak. Feeling bad about yourself, feeling weak is very negative. It promotes poor action and health. So, I changed with desire.
I wanted to be whole, self-respecting, loving and well, so I forced myself to have the strength to be different, to be myself. What a wonderful affect that has had on my life. I have become much stronger, more loving, more intuitive, more helped from the Spirit World (which is of course our true home) If I can do it, you can do it. We are no different and now I have the confidence to create a web-site to really try to help. What a win-win scenario. Join me in my efforts so we may all win.
Now it is easy (but it has taken practise). I have no fear of being different. I have no fear of going my own way, of being me. What is there to be frightened of anyway. I am eternal, I am energy. I can never be destroyed.
I am you and you are me.
P.S.
I must apologise for introducing myself (ego) into the scenario but I felt it necessary to explain this chapter well. It is, after all, an essential chapter to understand.
The Fear of Feeling or being Rejected.
Had you ever thought that if the people around you are likely to reject you for who you truly are then perhaps you are mixing in the wrong circles? You should not change, you cannot change who you truly are. You can change how you behave and, in many cases, probably should. But you should never change your behaviour to be more accepted unless the reasons you are not accepted is because you are hurting others (and if that is the case change is essential because you are self-hurting).
Only by being the amazing being you truly are can you be happy. If others reject you that is their problem, their agenda. Change your environment – change your company but never compromise ‘you’ (yourself).
If you compromise yourself in an effort to be accepted, you are self-hurting – you are hurting your spirit, your soul. This will unsettle your higher consciousness and this may lead to unhappiness and ultimately to ill-health.
So be yourself. If it leads to rejection, handle it, deal with it but never be frightened by it. The fear that comes from living a lie, living somebody else’s life or some groups perception of how you should live, is far greater than the fear that comes from being rejected.
As far as being rejected is concerned it can be a two-way (double edged) sword. You can be being rejected because you are controlling, hurtful, malicious and deceitful. If you are being any of these things, I think we can safely say the fault lies with you and change is essential.
If you are rejected for being yourself when you are caring, loving with a desire to be able to go your own way without interference albeit in an unusual, different, out of the ordinary way then you should never change. Let your natural beauty shine through and if others reject you for it, it is their loss. Look harder for your friends. There are always others out there like you.
One last point I must make about the fear of feeling or being rejected is this: The spirit world never rejects you. God never rejects you. You are guided, loved, helped, cherished for more than you probably realise. You are never truly alone. Spirit is always with you. Your own guide is always close at hand, ready on call, other spiritual helpers are there at need. You never walk alone. God is always aware of your thoughts. You can never be rejected.
So, the power of No! Is yours always. Always use it if you know No! is the right thing. Never compromise yourself or your soul. To acquiesce when you should say No! is to self-hurt.
P.S.
Say No! to anybody, anything, any institution. Nothing out there is bigger than your conscience. Remember, nobody can truly hurt you except yourself. Only you can damage your future by wrong action and No when No is due is definitely not wrong action.
Fear of People or Systems, Bullying Abusiveness.
Unfortunately, at this level bullying never stops. It is endless and ongoing because it works. It gives the control freaks what they want; power and money and they use you to get it.
On a personal level with individuals who bully in society this is always the result of fear (intense fear) and it is theirs not yours. They, within, are truly scared souls who feel helpless, useless and the only status they can achieve in this life is to control (create fear for others) and they do this abusively using either mental bullying, physical bullying or very often both. This is the only thing in their ugly lives that gives them status, a sense of importance. They are misguided, frightened and desperately in need of help and love but many are too proud to acknowledge this.
You should avoid such souls, walk away from them, try never to let them in for they are very dangerous. Unless you are very strong, they will hurt you. If you have let them in you must say No! to their hurting. If this doesn’t work you must walk away. If they won’t let you walk away you must get away at your earliest opportunity and not go back. Use whatever help your society offers you to protect yourself. If your society doesn’t care and gives you no help, keep running until you find someone who will. This is the only way you can say No! and have any quality of life.
Never stay and allow yourself to be dominated, abused. It is so debasing, depressing and hurtful for your soul. It can create negative energies and fears that you may take into another incarnation (life).
System, Government or Corporate Abuse.
This is a much more difficult area and is in fact much more damaging and hurtful than personal abuse because it is much larger, extensive and it embraces the whole Planet.
It is much harder to negate because it is harder to see. Much of it is subtle, much of it plays the mind-set games. There are many more than me that know about the power of the mind. Indeed, some powerful institutions and countries have whole departments working on this area to either increase their control, power or their wealth. We are in a very scary world.
Governments will turn any newly found knowledge or technology to a weapon. They are so frightened they always think they need a bigger bomb, a more potent virus, anything new will be looked at for its potential to wage war, create an edge. They never turn to the energy of real power, the energy beyond all others – love. Perhaps when we change the politics, we will change that also.
The Corporations bombard and control you with advertising and mind games. They promise so much and deliver so little of any real value. As has been clearly covered in previous sections.
It is not easy to say No! to them, particularly when they are providing your tastiest morsel, most comfortable chair, bed etc (fastest car) but everything must be in balance. We can have these things. We just have to do things differently. To create a manufacturing base that is not abusive to the planet. We have to pay the price, bear the cost.
We should all say No! to our present lot and Yes! To change whilst we still have something left to change.
For those of you, and there are many millions, suffering poverty and abuse under evil regimes I say: “Don’t give up, be strong. God loves you as much as he loves me.” You have my heart felt sympathy and compassion. Remember no abuse goes unpunished (unbalanced). Those who are lording it over you now will be paying the price later (and life is so short). Be brave, be strong and try to remain loving. I know how hard that must be and if you are offered any real choices without violence and abuse say No! resoundingly loudly.
Perhaps if you all had the courage to say No! together, your present tormentors would fall. If you all acted as one this is not a perhaps but a definite. The people always have the power. However, they, your tormentors have their secrete police, their armies, their torturers (they have stolen your money to pay for this) and they are experts in the arena of fear. They know how to divide, bribe and rule, how to set brother against brother. It is the only reason they’re still in power.
P.S
I know you are suffering. I know you are violated but try to be strong (be strong inside). Say No! to hate. Try not to commit suicide. Try to see your journey through. There are reasons for it that neither you or I understand. God bless you all.